Technology continues to be one of the biggest things in today’s world

Technology continues to be one of the biggest things in today’s world. We can do anything or find anything at the click of a button or a google search without having to leave the couch. Technology has been helpful recently in connecting with others and helping regulate emotions when dealing with the loss of a loved one.
A big thing recently for individuals dealing with a loss is resources online for grieving. They have resources available specifically designed for people going through a loss and can help likeminded individuals cope with that loss together without having to go somewhere and it also gives them the opportunity to stay anonymous during that process.
Researchers wanted to know how similar people grieve online and what the differences and similarities were between the age groups and sex of the people grieving. According to Doveling (2017) the questions they asked themselves were, “What role does the kind of loss play?”, “Do widowers and parents who have lost a parent disclose more than adolescents?” (page 42)
They came up with two hypothesis statements. First being, “Online social comparison as cognitive reappraisal in emotional regulation is used more by adults and engenders feelings of relief”. (Doveling, 2017) Second hypothesis statement being, “Children who lost a parent disclose more despair online than bereaved of other age groups and articulate a higher lack of support in the offline world.” (Doveling, 2017) To see if these hypotheses were true, they analyzed content of posting’s they shared on four large social platforms for grieving in Germany from April 2015 to October 2015.
These platforms were all specifically designed to be just for mourning and grieving with one another. The multiple platforms were platform for widowers called Verwitwet Forum (VW), a platform for parents who lost a child, Maximilan Project (MP), one for adolescents who lost a parent, Young Wings (YW), and one for children who lost a parent, Elternlos (ELS). (Doveling, 2017)
One of the biggest findings was the Females used these sites significantly more for grieving than males did. (Doveling, 2017) They also found that widowers scored the highest for using the platforms at 79.8 percent of the users. (pg. 49) They found that the overall aspect of the platform was empathy which is described on the platform as an overall feeling of understanding, similarity, and a feeling of community on common grounds. They found that adolescents disclosed more relief, while children disclosed their grief. (pg. 50)
Overall it is found that these sites are helpful for those that need to mourn and can find community with others that share similar situations. Females found comfort in these sites more than men in all platforms. They concluded that online bereavement is more of a “female matter”, and they females on all platforms were very active and willing to share their emotions. (Doveling, 2017, pg. 54)
I think that this study shows us that everyone has different ways of grieving. Different sex’s may grief and feel differently about grieving and sharing community online. Different losses impact the way that they grief and the emotions that they share.
There a couple ways we as nurses can be helpful to our grieving patients’ family’s. One being connect them with appropriate resources. For example, pastor, support group, or social worker. We also need to be understanding and not pass judgement. Everyone grieves different and we shouldn’t judge someone for grieving differently that you would. Cultures or spiritual believes could also affect how an individual reacts and goes through the grieving process. Actively listen so that they can talk about what they are feeling and feel like someone is listening/hearing them. In addition to that, give the family space and privacy. You can give them some time alone and close the door for privacy.
Everyone griefs and goes through situations differently. We should be prepared as nurses to take care of patients and help them through the grieving process in many ways and be prepared for differing emotions and responses.